Husband plays a role in
After my last column, which was a piece
of light humor drawn at the expense of adults' collective immaturity, it
is time yet
again to tackle another controversial
issue: this time, the Andrea Yates murder case.
Not one human being in his or her right
mind would disagree with the fact that Mama Yates snatched the lives of
innocent children. However, I would like
to pose a question to my readers: Is her husband also at fault?
Although the subject of school shootings
and the responsibility of parents are not directly related issues, I would
like to point
out one interesting parallel.
Whenever a school shooting occurs, parents,
the media and the general public all shoot an accusing eye at the parents
the perpetrator. Since Yates is a mentally
ill woman living in her own home, I believe we should all take a closer
look at her
"parent": her husband, Rusty Yates.
Time magazine's latest issue included a
comprehensive nine-page spread on the Yates case. The article outlined
that each time Yates was released from
a mental institution (and she had been in several in the months preceding
June morning of the murder) it was with
the understanding that Rusty Yates would watch out for her, her suicidal
and her violent visions of harming others
(especially her children). If he had been doing his job, how could things
so terribly wrong?
The fact of the matter is he left her alone
with the children that morning. As mentioned in Time, he had to make sure
swallowed her anti-depressants before
he left, since she had a history of refusing to take them. He also remarked
appeared nervous that morning when he
How did this man justify his decision of
leaving a very mentally ill woman unsupervised with five young children
in a small,
unkempt home? Was this not just a disaster
waiting to happen?
There is even more to the story. Throughout
the police and media's frenzied investigations of the case, Rusty Yates
always remained calm, cool and collected.
He has never openly wept, or expressed much anger or frustration with what
Now, I have never had children before,
but I feel pretty confident that if my mother killed me and my little brother
and sister, my
dad would be pretty ticked. To put it
lightly, he would probably have tried to beat her.
However, Rusty Yates maintains close contact
with his wife and ardently supports her release. While many people want
see her fry for taking the lives of five
children, much less her own, he is unrelentingly sympathetic with her.
I am in awe of his super-human capabilities.
Indeed, his level of self-control is admirable, but it seems to me that
he may have
a little too much self-control. What she
did almost defies imagination. How has her husband been able to forgive
quickly and so thoroughly?
In a way, I think her husband has some
issues himself. Both parents were very religious and secretive. They home-schooled
their children and did not do much socializing
outside the family. In fact, Yates uses the Bible to justify her actions.
Time magazine reported that she told jail
doctors that she had been a bad mother and she had to kill her children
punishment for herself. Since I am not
a theology expert, I cannot give the exact quote, but you are more than
investigate it yourselves.
Since the final verdict is months and months
away, I would like these arguments to be pondered carefully. When two people
have children, it is their inherited duty
to love and protect them. And when their children pass before them, most
parents mourn their loss unbearably. How
has Rusty Yates been able to do this so discreetly?
Maybe the public should also bring suit
against him as well. He failed his duty while they were alive, and now
he is also
failing to honor their deaths rightfully.